Like a Virgin
Desperate Households 2 Bob Yandian
All scripture King James Version. These notes are what I got from sermon, not necessarily what was preached. Sermons are available to view/listen to at Grace Church website for approximately 1 month from time sermon preached.
Gen 2:24-25 KJVR (24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (25) And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
One flesh is a term for marriage. Naked is a sign of sexual relationships. This is God order of things. Unless you leave you cannot cleave. Unless you cleave you can not be one flesh.
Mat 19:5-6 KJV (5) And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh (6) Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Marriage is a covenant made between a man, a woman, and God. It is a covenant to turn to God and away from all others.
Job 31:1 KJV (1) I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?
1 Tim. 3 talks about husband of one wife. A translation for this would be a one woman man.
God said he was married to his nation Israel. When they went after other gods he said they went a whoring.
Eph 5:30-33 KJV (30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (32) This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Paul goes back and forth between marriage and the relationship with God. Get to know one and you can understand the other. We are one flesh with God.
Today marriage and sex are being challenged when it comes to what God has set for us. The world says:
- You are expected not to be a virgin when you get married.
- It is OK to have sex unless if it is protected sex.
- You can have sex if you love them.
- Live with each other to see if you are compatible.
How does God look at sex outside of marriage?
1Co 6:15-17 KJV (15) Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a harlot? God forbid. (16) What? know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. (17) But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.When you have sex with a harlot it is you being tied to her. It is considered one flesh. Sex is the outward sign of marriage. In the time of the Bible, you got married by getting things set up with parents, and when you picked her up and went on your honeymoon, you were married when sex took place. So every time you have sex with someone, that is a sign of marriage to that person. You are made in God's image and this is what He believes. By having sex outside of marriage you start to build up an image of a person who does not exist as each is imprinted on you.
Exo 20:5-6 KJV (5) Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; (6) And showing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.If sex outside of marriage is OK, why do we have jealousy. We know it is not right. When we do not serve God it is the same feeling for Him as when we feel hurt from the pain of a cheating spouse.
God has a plumb line for us.
- Premarital sex does not make you a better marriage candidate.
- Living together does not prepare you for marriage. Marriage is a covenant.
- Sexual compatibility does not produce a good marriage. A good marriage produces sexual compatibility.
- Good sex is progressive in a marriage. You need to learn together. And you also have to learn to forgive the mistakes. It is like learning to drive a stick shift. Cars are more forgiving than marriage partners.
- Living together without marriage is a sin.
Fornication - sex before marriage.
Adultery - sex outside of marriage.
Adultery is a reason to break up a marriage. God divorced Israel over their adultery with other gods. Marriage is where freedom exist. Outside it is bondage.
So what do we do with the feelings of not what to forgive and the rage that happen from a spouse having an affair. Turn it loose, and forgive. If God can forgive, so can you.